Monday, December 19

Favorite Dates

Quality time. What does that even mean? After moving in with my partner, I've grown to realize that it's about continuing to get to know the other person and to grow with them as they grow. It makes sense if you think about it. What's a common reason for divorce? Irreconciable differences. "Oh... we just grew apart over time." 

That's just the issue, isn't it? I think the most successful couples that I see grow with each other over time. They make each other better. 

This is where quality time comes it. It's so easy to live with someone, to see them every day and not really know them. However, as it comes to exploring new ideas, it can be hard to push each other forward in the same direction. 
check out the awesome hair I have going on here.
1. Visit the Theatre - Or go fancy! Amidst the monotony of living together, the chores, the kids, the long days at work, it's no wonder that things get boring. What do new couples do? They do hot air balloon rides and surprise road trips and spontaneous spa days. What do "old" couples do? A movie night once in a while? A nice dinner out? By going fancy, you get to inject spice and newness into your relationship. Sure, it might be expensive, but saving a few dinner dates for a mystery dinner theatre show would be worth it. 

2. Do Something Physical (see photo above!) - I read somewhere long ago that physical activity really helps body chemistry in developing attraction. I'm going to butcher the science, but there's some chemical reaction where physical exercise causes endorphins that make you like who you spend time with. A physical date helps keeps the both of you in shape, is challenging, and is out of the norm! 

3. Active over Passive - I love watching a movie in theatres as much as the next person, but sometimes you need to be more engaged... more focused on each other, if you will. I feel that this is the main distinction between "time", and "quality time". You have to take this opportunity to check in with your partner. Do so like you would a long time friend, sure, you might talk every day, but how often do you take a step back and talk about the big picture? Or really talk about the details more than that surface level conversation really allows?


Any other awesome date ideas? 
What do you like to do?

Monday, November 28

Walrus and Carpenter (hello, again)

You may have noticed that I haven't posted in a few months. I'd say work has gotten away from me, but I say that every few months. I think it's time to come to terms with the fact that ever since I started working ... 4 years ago, my posts have become a lot more sparse. If you actually look at my post history, you can find out exactly when that was. I'll explain in another post what I've been doing in the meantime and what this blog will look like in the future, but for now, please enjoy this restaurant post! Everyone enjoys some yummy food, right? 

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The Walrus and Carpenter was a restaurant that I wanted to go to during my first visit to Seattle, but it wasn't until recently that I actually made it. 

As an oyster lover, I really enjoyed the place! It's a tiny hole in the wall, but gorgeous decorated. I was seated at the bar and saw the cooking process first hand, which was very interesting to see what was done by hand and what was prepackaged. 

If I had any tips for visiting this place, it would be: 

1. Visit during off peak hours. Since the restaurant is so small, even a few small parties fill the space up. 

2. Go with a small party! Because I was only dining with one other individual, I was immediately seated at the bar. If I had others with me, I'd definitely be waiting for a few more minutes 

For starters, we got oysters! There's a great 50% off HH, but again, space would be a big issue at such a peak time. 


Next, we had the smoked salmon. I would not recommend this. While it was good, it was pulled straight from a package. In its place, definitely get the fried oysters. The couple next to me ordered this and it looked great! 

Lastly, because I would not leave without having dessert, the bread pudding. This is one of my favorite desserts and Walrus and Carpenter did not disappoint!

Monday, August 29

Cozy Cardigans

It should be no surprise that I absolutely love cardigans. For proof, just see here in my Work Staples Series and here with a Halogen Cardigan. But I recently discovered the chunky cardigan. 


Dress: H&M ($12.95)
Cardigan: Forever 21 ($24.90)
Boots: Nordstrom ($99.95)

Please excuse the terrible picture, but I absolutely love this cardigan and had to share it. It goes well over dresses and skirts and even outfits with pants. This picture was taken when it was a bit warmer and I was rocking it with bare legs. 

I wore this cardigan 2 days in a row when I was recently in Florida for a conference. For all the lovely warm weather outside, it was freezing cold inside. I stayed warm with this guy! I love it when you know you made a really solid, useful purchase. 

Monday, August 8

Chicago Trip Recap Day 1 & 2

Like in the vein of my Seattle Trip and my Scotland Trip, I love recounting my vacations. It's basically another way to relive them over a full year ago, I went to explore Chicago for a few days. 

Thursday - 11/6/14 - Landing... and prompting sleeping


I had planned to land late in Chicago. With my flight delayed, my late flight became even later and I ended up reaching my hotel at 10pm, when most restaurants were closed or closing. With no dinner in my belly, I opted to order a deep dish pizza from Giordanos. Then, I watched a bit of golf and called it a night. 

Friday - 11/7/14 - Financial District, Miracle Mile, Cloud Gate


an indoor market
Friday was the day I had planned for most of my outdoor activities. After waking up in the morning, I made my way downtown to the financial center. While there were plenty of tall buildings, I didn't find it oppressive. In fact, I really like the city feel of it all. With waking up late, I ended up grabbing a waffle at a place called Wafel. It was a Liege style waffle, which I realized I had never had before... and it was delicious. From the financial district, I walked to the shopping area/Magnificent Mile. 

While I didn't get anything, I took in the sights of the festive stores and large crowds--that's just a scene you don't get in Phoenix. Eager to try some hot dogs, I ventured into the fast food joint called America's Dogs. This place featured about 20 hot dogs based on the traditions of major US cities. This was when I realized I was a NY girl at heart, because I ended up with a NY Dog. 

After the lunch pitstop, I made my way to Millennium Park. This is where the infamous Bean is. I actually really like the park. It was a bit smaller than I imagined (or at least all the lankmarks were pretty close together). It definitely seemed like a lovely place to hang out if it wasn't super cold outside. From there, I walked to the museums to get to them right at closing time... oh well! I took a few pictures of the scenery. 

After a day of walking, I realized that it had also gotten progressively colder and colder. my feet were tired. My skin was cold and dry from the wind. A yelp search and a few blocks later, I found myself myself in a lovely warm restaurant, resting my aching feet and with this delicious bowl in front of me. I had an entire hotpot all to myself at Tamarind. This was so much food and it was so delicious.



Friday, July 22

My Hairstyle Evolution

Long hair, to me is safe. Not because I hide behind it, but because it's heavy enough to dry straight, so I never have to brush it. But I've been wanting something different. Some of you can already tell that I cut my hair quite a bit! 


It went from quite long... 
#derpfacemode

To long, but tamed.

To SHORT! 


That last picture is actually from December of 2014! I have maintained my short hairstyle for most of 2015 and 2016, but now it's nearing shoulder length and I want some new inspiration! 

What's next is of course the long bob. It's been on every celebrity. See here on the most banal celebrity. (I say banal, but I mean no offense because she looks awesome here.)


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Maybe next time I'll get some color in my hair for the first time... 

Monday, June 27

Philosophy Review

I was introduced to Philosophy when I was obsessed with soaps and bath gels. I am fairly thrifty person... and I can't believe that there was a time in my life that I would consider spending $16 on bath gels. Bath gels with no special moisturizing, exfoliating, or skincare properties. (I say this, but I recently wandered back into a Lush and wanted to spend about $20 on a very small bottle of body wash.)

I spontaneously purchased these items, so I figured, why not write what I feel about them? 



Fresh Cream Body Polishing Scrub - This makes me remember why I thought about buying obscenely expensive body washes -- the scent. The lotion smells super incredibly sweet and creamy. It worked well as a moisturizer, but the selling point was the scent! 

Purity Facial Cleanser - This stuff is great. I can definitely see why it is a holy grail for so many. It is gentle enough to use around the eye area, removes my makeup effectively and doesn't make my face feel dry. 

Monday, June 20

My Top Four Dream Travel Destinations

As I was growing up, I always felt like such a traveler. My family visited China every summer, so I felt incredibly exotic. I could speak another language and I've been somewhere that took a 10 hour plane ride. But as I grew older, I realized I hadn't really traveled at all. Sure, I've been across an ocean and to another continent, but it was only that one country. And only one city. 

While my peers not only traveled but lived all across the world, I quickly fell behind on my traveling. Truth is, I don't have the guts to rough it. Nor do I want to. I'd love to do luxury travel, but I barely have the money to travel at all. Anyways, here's a list of places that I'd love to visit: 


1. New Zealand & Australia 

Hobbits, scenery, culture and animals! To me, this is such an exotic part of the world. I don't even really know what I'd do here, but I know, for sure that there's tons of things to see. I'd love to try the cuisine, visit the cities and the desert!


2. Russia 

I've always wanted to visit Russia. It's an unusual mix of European and Asian. I've always loved Russian history and would love to go see all the landmarks that I learned about in school. The Russian culture is so rich. 

3. Italy 

I've been to Italy once but there are so many cities that we left out of my trip. I'd love to visit and explore Rome, Venice and the Vatican.


4. Greece

Recently, I've seen some bloggers and vloggers hit up Greece. The scenery looks so picturesque! You already know that I'm a huge fan of culture and history, so Greece is an obvious choice for me! Between Athens and Santorini, there's so much learning and relaxing to do. 


Where do you want to go on your next vacation?

Monday, May 23

How to Find a Job Post Graduation

Too often, students do well in school and forget why they are there in the first place--to find a job. Graduation dawns all too fast and these students are left in limbo, often moving back home since they don't have anything prepared. In order to graduate with a job, keep these tips in mind. 

 1. Know what you want to do.  I know. I know. This is no easy charge. But starting your job search in your last year of university is far, far too late. You should be looking at internships the moment you enter college. Granted, these internships may not be able to support you, but try to make whatever position you take during school relate to your field. I know it's great to enjoy a summer off, but a summer off between when you graduate and when you start working is MUCH more relaxing. 

 2. Actually apply for jobs. I've also heard of students who have graduated complain that they don't get many callbacks, even though they've been applying for jobs all week. How many did they apply for? 5. At a certain point, you should really just be churning these applications out! A better goal is 15... per day. Remember, we not only want one job, but options to pick between. 

 3. Get a Plan B - that doesn't involve more school. There are a lot of people who pursue more school because they are good at it. It's great to do something that you love, but I think we need to keep a payday at the end of the tunnel in mind. It's not that jobs in academia aren't available, but whenever I've seen it, it's been rare. Don't go to get more school because that's what you've always done. Sometimes, we may need to take a position that's not ideal... to wait for something more appropriate to come along. If anything, you may discover a new passion or realize that your original idea is exactly the path you're meant to be on.e 

 After doing all this... you still may not get an offer. Everyone's situation is different. Not everyone wants to settle for the first job they find. Some people need to move to find gainful employment. Others are underemployed. I've seen it too, where bright, intelligent and hardworking students can't find jobs for reasons unexplained. Rest assured. Keep trying; it's not just you.

Monday, April 25

On Traveling Alone

Recently, I listed to a podcast that that focused on women travelling alone. Specifically, it discussed female travelers throughout history, the stigma of a woman travelling alone and the unique challenges that women face abroad. While discussing these topics, the hosts shared their own journeys of self discovery when travelling alone... 

That's when I realized how rare it was to travel alone. I had not given much thought to my trip to Scotland, but after listening to them, I feel proud that I was able to go to a different country and navigate from one city to another... that I was able to find my friend's houses without getting lost. I did go to an English speaking country and I did meet up with friends while I was there but I am going to take this moment to be proud of my accomplishments.

If you ever have the opportunity to walk along modern marvels or contemplate in a foreign place, I highly recommend you do it!

To where did you last travel alone? 

Monday, April 11

Overdue Reading Update - Book Reviews

It's time again for an update on what I've been reading! I don't read as much nowadays, but I feel like I demand a high quality from what I do read. My highly recommend read from the past few months is the Scarlet Pimpernel! 

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The Sherlockian 
by Graham Moore 

 It might be a little strange, but the majority of books I read now are Sherlock Holmes related. In my latest venture was the Sherlockian by Graham Moore. It's definitely a weird book that employs a strategy of dual story telling. One arch focuses on Arthur Conanc Doyle solving the murder of a young woman in the 1800s. The second arch is set in the present day and focuses on a murder that happens at a Holmes Convention. While the book didn't have amazing writing, it was definitely a page turner. I thought I didn't like the book at first, but when I finished, I hoped there would have been a sequel. Read this if you're into fast-paced mysteries. 

The Scarlet Pimpernel 
by Baroness Emma Orczy 

This book was recommended to me by an individual who knew that I loved reading mysteries. But just because I enjoy mysteries doesn't necessary mean I enjoy every mystery... Nevertheless, I started the book and for the first few months I had it, I got through 3 or 4 pages in the preface. Then, one weekend, when I had time, I picked it up and finished it in a day. This is one of those books that I would recommend to anyone and everyone in a heartbeat. The romance and mystery in this book was right up my alley. I grew a little annoyed with the main character, but soon, I loved everyone in the book. I really want this to be turned into a movie with Chris Pratt as the male lead. If you like Austen style romance, Les Miserables, or mysteries, read this immediately. 

Good Omens
by Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett

This is a very popular book, but I just wasn't feeling it. There are sections of this book that are incredibly quotable and funny, but strung together as a story, it just didn't interest me. I loved the last book I read by Neil Gaiman, so, I'm scared to think that it might be Terry Pratchett I don't enjoy. This book is about an angel, a demon and the 11 year old Anti-Christ who cancels Armageddon. 


What else have you read lately? I would love to hear your recommdations. 


Monday, March 28

OVERHYPED?! - Revlon Lip Butter in Sorbet Review

This series is about those products that you've heard so much about. But, if for some reason, you've wondered if they're overhyped, there's this review for you. Right now we're probably all looking for the next bright spring lipstick, something nice and moisturizing and in a pretty coral or pink color. Well, then your search will probably take you to the Revlon Lip Butters, which came out a few seasons ago. Here's my review... are they OVERHYPED?! Find out below:

The texture? Definitely creamy. But what about all the other qualities?





Despite being creamy and moisturizing, if you have dry lips, you'll still have to exfoliate them well before applying this lipstick. As you can see above, the color is sheer. But worry not as it is also quickly buildable. The lipstick slides over your lips leaving a subtle glossy effect behind. Despite the bright shade of this lipstick, it's actually a relatively natural color on the lips. It only settles a bit into my fine lines. The lipstick doesn't moisturize my lips any, but at the same time, it doesn't dry my lips out either. 

The transferability is low on this lipstick, which I'm SO thankful for after other products have left my coffee cups with gross red smudges. While it doesn't transfer, it's also not incredibly long lasting. One would have reapply every few hours. The lipstick wears off pretty evenly, another trait I'm a huge fan of. Overall, I'd say while this is a good lipstick... it's still overhyped. 

Monday, March 21

Summer 2014 - Scotland Recap 3

Continuing on a previous post series, my last post about Scotland-- 2 years ago at this point! I had a fantastic time, so be sure to catch my first and second post in the series here!

Saturday, July 21 - Exploring the Highlands at Blair Atholl

On Saturday, we had a "Highlands" day. I had wanted to go to Loch Ness (for Nessie related reasons) but the trip there was prohibitively long. We ended up choosing a different location that was a lot closer. After a yummy breakfast of chocolate croissants, pancakes and Haggis, we set off. 



Blair Atholl was about 2 hours north by train and breathtakingly gorgeous. It reminded me of Austria. First on our list in Blair Atholl was to find some food. 

The Mill was recommended as the place to go and how right Yelp was! The Mill felt in all honesty like a Hobbit Hole. It was small, dark and warm. Most of the furniture was wood and it was very welcoming. We ordered paninis with chutney (yum). My friend got a scone with butter as a side. I have never loved scones because since I usually think they are dry, but I grew to love them in Scotland. Lastly, we split a chocolate cake with the most extraordinary ganache, made up of extremely simple ingredients. 




From there, we took a detour, got lost and then went to visit the Blair Atholl Castle. 

Castles in Scotland are all so different. There's what you may steroeotypically think of as a castle, then there's Blair Atholl, which to me, looks Mediterranean. While pictures were not allowed inside the castle, it was a mixture of old oil paintings, 19th century dining rooms, huge displays of artillery on the walls, and antlers. Probably hundreds of pairs or antlers on the wall. 

I've visited a French castles and German castles, this Scottish one was humble by comparison. What I did like about it was the mixture of ancient history dating back to the 1700s... and photos from just a few years ago. I learned that the Duke who owned the castle was actually living in South Africa. As an American, the idea of aristocrats seems like an ancient and foreign idea--so it was refreshing to see that system in a modern context. 
We walked around the castle for a few hours, and of course, there was that 2 hour train ride. By the time we got back, it was already 8:30. However, the skies were deceivingly light and instead of heading home we decided to have some Italian in St. Andrews. After a long day of walking, the food was amazing and well appreciated. Slightly gratuitous pasta porn:


Sunday, July 21 - First Day in Edinburgh

All the walking made us pretty tired but when I got up on Sunday I had to pack all my bags and head back towards Edinburgh. I had become acquainted with the trains on Saturday, so Sunday's trip wasn't special to me. We had breakfast first thing in the morning, or course. This was a full Scottish breakfast. Beans, eggs, toast, haggis, sausage and that European bacon!

I enjoyed travelling via rail along the coastal high way to McTaggert's Cafe. Or rather, the city of Aberdour. But what I really remember was the cafe. After the flour mill on the day before, I had expected McTaggert's to be like that bar from Lord of the Rings, but it was surprisingly modern. 


But back to Edinburgh. After setting our stuff down in the train station, we went to the Chocolate Tree. This specialty chocolate restaurant sounded amazing, but I didn't realize how far it was. By the time we walked across the city, I had no idea where I was and I was incredibly grumpy. At the same time, I loved the walking tour of the city I got. The architechture was breathtaking. The family homes looked aged and refined, and yet comfortable enough for modern living. Their windowsills were decorated with beds of flowers and gorgeous curtains. We passed by a park where people were playing golf or having a picnic. 



The Chocolate Tree was delicious. We had hot chocolate with a scoop of chocolate ice cream in it. I probably would never order this at home, but there's just something about being on vacation. No rules. 

We ended the day by walking around Grass Market. I really wish that there was a place near me like Grass Market. It's an long street, filled with bars, pubs and restaurants. But there is still a decently open walking area in the middle. Right over it lies the Edinburgh Castle, which I guess is really why I don't see anything like that day to day. Nothing in the US is quite that old. We even ended up passing by the Elephant House, where die hard fans will know as the birthplace of Harry Potter. 

Monday, June 23rd - Last Day in Scotland

My last day was spent entirely in Edinburgh. I think I was most excited for this trip. St. Andrews was a University town, Anstruther was a quiet fishing village, and Edinburgh was a city. And I loved the city. I'm glad that this trip helped me discover that I'm a city girl, through and though. First order of business was to climb Arthur's Seat. I don't think I ever really learned what Arthur's Seat was, but it was always visible in the background as a flat mountain of sorts. Some kind of stronghold for the city perhaps? Either way, I was promised gorgeous views at the top so I started. My friend was tricky. A forty minute hike turned into an hour and a half, but the experience was honestly awesome. I am not a fan of hiking, but if I lived in Edinburgh, I'd be hiking that thing every weekend. 



After we came down the mountain, it was time for lunch. I had yelped a place adjacent to Arthur's Seat and we went there for something lovely and simple. Sugarhouse Sandwiches had delightful...sandwiches! 

Then, on the way to get back into the city center, we passed by two fudge shops and purchased a good deal of fudge... because we need that much fudge to carry. 

I was really tired the rest of the day but we trekked across the city anyways to the Edinburgh castle where I attempted to receive a free ticket by pretending to be a member of a Chinese tour group. We walked by Camera Obscura, an illusion museum of sorts, but didn't go in. I got a few pictures of Edinburgh as we walked across it. 


The last part of our day was spent people watching. I wanted to make sure that my bus would actually take me where I wanted to go, so we tried to verify the bus stop... while doing so, we were distracted by some bagpipers in front of a hotel. Now, I know that bagpipes are a very Scottish thing but holy crap, if they're playing close to you, they are LOUD.

From the city, I flew to the airport and started on a long trek home. Overall, I look back on this trip super fondly. I got to spend a week exploring a few cities in a brand new country with a very good friend.